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Never say night Amos Oz

In the beautiful novel by Amos Oz "Never say night" , the action takes place in the microcosm of a small town in the Negev desert where everyone knows everyone and knows everything about everyone.

It 's a human comedy whose protagonists are a man and a woman. The wife is middle-aged piena di vitalità e con una gran voglia di uscire dalla monotonia della quotidianità. Lui, più vecchio, alla ricerca del silenzio, della pace, della solitudine: “Guarda il giorno che muore e aspetta: chissà che cosa promette l’ultima luce.(…) Ormai ha fatto quel che poteva fare, d’ora in poi aspetterà”.. .

Il libro è raccontato a due voci: in un capitolo è Noa che parla e nell’altro Theo. ciò che caraterizza il romanzo non è né il dialogo né il monologo interiore, ma quel dialogo particolare che Amos Oz definisce “dialogo interiore”.

Tutti noi facciamo use of internal dialogue, that is, we talk with each other like this, we explain our reasons, we sentimao convincing, because no one interrupts us and we can say what we say. Let's talk about ourselves and we justify ourselves for what we have or have not done. Everything, in short, if the dialogue takes place within us seems to spin, to be convincing. "Work" we say "I'll tell you so, she ripsonderà e. ..". But everything changes when they met, and often the dialogue we had imagined it in transforming conflict. The other stops us before we can finish the thought, get irritated, we do not feel listened to and end, instead of clarify, we argue and we close the tower of our reason.

dialogue, the real one, maybe it works in reality in, if instead of constantly interrupt us, learn to listen, to make silence inside of us to hear the reasoning of others. Yes, it would be possible, it is possible. But you have to know art, "says Amos Oz, to know how to compromise. "compromises have - the writer says - to stay alive. The young people think that a trade is opportunistic and dishonest. But in my vocabulary compromise is synonymous with life, where there is life there is compromise. L 'opposite of compromise is not integrity and honesty, but is fanaticism and death. The compromise for me is a philosophy, a way of life. " "Compromise is to try to meet each other halfway."

And if you question more deeply, understand Theo Noa Noa and Theo understands, even if they do not know or fail to saying it. "If only I had known him understand - think Noa - what is troubling for me about his excessive" , and he realizes that "The only way to help, you do not try to help her. Only become smaller. "

Amos Oz makes us understand that sometimes it is essential in a relationship, learning to fare un passo indietro, a capire cosa l’altro vuole davvero da noi, a rispettare la sua diversità, il suo spazio e anche i suoi sbagli. Theo sembra capirlo e dice a se stesso: "Così corre avanti e indietro da una parete all'altra sbattendo le ali, inciampa nella lampada, contro il soffitto, sbatte contro i mobili, si fa male. Invece di condurla fuori verso la libertà se non stai attento finirai per farla volare verso locali ancora più interni. Ogni tuo movimento non fa che aumentare la sua paura" .

Amare vuol dire, quindi, rinunciare a far prevalere i nostri punti di vista, le nostre rivendicazioni, ad imporle. E' importante saper stare vicino senza essere invadenti, imparare to give each other the force because then everyone can deal with its own power and their ways of life's difficulties.

"In the meantime tonight - says Noa - I make him turn off the radio because I go to London to take a shower and then went back to him in the dark" . And that says Amos Oz "is not an intimidating dark, the darkness is where you make love" .

As always, Amos Oz knows going into deeper psychological mechanisms that intersect and intertwine in the human soul, can tell the real life in its nuances and contradictions. He speaks to us a microcosm of a small situation, but at the same time shows us a path in public life.

The ability to make compromises, "says Amos Oz in fact, should regulate the most intimate relations, but also political ones, for example in the conflict between Jews and Palestinians it regards as emphasized in an interview:" In the vocabulary of peace the words peace-love-compassion are synonymous. No, peace is peace and not necessarily love. I do not agree with the slogan "Make love, not war." If I am faced with a Palestinian, I I would say, "Do not love and peace." No need for love be at peace, there is no need of enemies you love, forget and forgive that. It must stop killing and dying to live, even if through gritted teeth. When I talk of compromise, I do not speak of enemies embrace. Between Israelis and Palestinians, but also between men and women, I expect a grudging coexistence ".